Dopamine

Well, I just changed my Facebook status, so I guess that makes it official: I’ve got a girlfriend.

I know, I’m just as surprised as you are. Her name’s Amy, and we went to school together, so we’ve know each other for more than 6 years. It happened at Hogmanay (that’s New Year to you English lot), totally unexpected. There was no alcohol involved (just wanted to mention that), it may have been spontaneous, but it was also sober! I decided that I had nothing to loose by telling her how I felt and, to my great relief, it wasn’t a one way street. Yay!

She’s a psychology student at Aberdeen, I’m obviously up in Inverness at the moment, so it’s a bit of a weekend relationship at present. Still, thanks to Apple and iMessage we have unlimited texts, just as well since we’re both fans of the long, essay-like message. Case in point, I just sent one that was 1118 characters long. You’d have thought twitter would have taught me to keep it brief.

I haven’t been in a relationship, or on so much as a date for that matter, since summer 2010. And to be honest, I was in a relationship in name only by the end, so I’m a bit out of practice at the whole thing. Thankfully I don’t seem to have done anything stupid yet; I wait with bated breath.

I don’t really know what else to tell you. I’m absolutely shattered after my four day weekend, so I think it’s time to call it a night. I’ve got two 15,000+ word theses waiting for me to read tomorrow, I’ll need to be well rested and well caffeinated for that.

Time travel

I’ve just gone and ruined a perfectly good evening (morning now, but w/e). My own fault, digging up the past when it was, for once, perfectly happy to be left alone. Silly me.

I went and unblocked someone on Facebook, only because they came up in conversation this evening and I wanted to find out what they were up to. The uncharitable amongst you might call this behaviour ‘Facebook stalking’. If you were feeling a little more forgiving, you might call it ‘stupid’; which it definitely was. However, if it was my first mistake, my second was looking up their old blog; and my third was checking out a forum I know they used to frequent.

In truth, there wasn’t really anything new to find anywhere but Facebook. It was all stuff I’d read before. Stuff that reminds me of the stupid, hurtful things I’ve done. I shouldn’t have read it all again; there was no need, I already knew what it said; but once I started, I couldn’t stop myself. Like watching a car crash unfold in front of you in perfectly formed sentences.

Silly, silly me. (Although writing this has helped more than I expected. Yay for the catharsis by blog!)

Bitter Ex-

I’m not going to do the whole bitter exboyfriend thing; for one because it’s just not cool, but also because I’m not actually bitter.

However, there is one thing that did piss me off in my relationship with Catriona: I wasn’t allowed to sing in my own car.

I know, right? I mean, I acknowledge I’m about as tuneful as a rusty nail being scraped down a blackboard, but seriously. My own car!

/endrant

Exams: Epilogue

After the exam on Wednesday we went to Wetherspoons for lunch, it was good and mighty cheap, always a consideration when one is a student. One waiter was extremely rude to us, I happened to be served by the duty manager at the bar, so I mentioned it to him. He wasn’t particularly helpful either, I wasn’t sure which I felt more strongly: glad that he didn’t adopt a ‘customer is always right’ approach and instead stood by his staff; or annoyed that he didn’t try and soothe me with a ‘customer is always right’ approach. In the end, the same waiter was the one serving us our food and he apologized, he was carrying really hot plates apparently and the place was absolutely packed (with first year medics just finished their exams obviously, who else is going to be in there at 1.30 on a Wednesday afternoon?). I don’t doubt he probably spit on my chicken burger too, just for good measure!

After lunch I went back to halls to relax for a bit, then it was on with a shirt and up to dinner early, we wanted to get good seats in the pub for the UEFA final. It was absolutely roasting in the Wateringhole, it’s underground so there’s no windows. We couldn’t really get to the bar either because there was a solid wall of Man U fans in our way. The game wasn’t really exciting, we got our adrenaline instead from the twat of a Man U supporter who threatened Mark, the Barca’ fan in our group. He may have run away with Will about 15 minutes before the end! Those of us who stayed went up and joined them in the flat for a tequila shot or two after the game (it was my first experience of tequila, I’m not sure I’ll be having it again any time soon.) Then on to the Liquid night-club in Aberdeen, via our local pub of course. Liquid was pack full of medics as well, everywhere you turned was a familiar face, which was nice.

I didn’t have the balls to make my move, which may have been just as well cause it turns out she might have a boyfriend already. I’ve exhausted every online stalking method I have to find out, still none the wiser. I may just have to bite the bullet and ask; scary! In the end I gave up trying to work up the courage and escaped home with Natalie and Cat instead; obviously I didn’t have enough to drink. Someone, on the other hand, had plenty to drink and ended up forehead-to-forehead with some random girl on the dance floor moving round in cute little circles. Oh yeah, then they played tongue hockey. We got photographic evidence, just in case he didn’t remember exactly what she looked like in the morning.

Then a lie-in on Thursday morning; bliss, pure bliss.

Gettin’ my Groove on

Before we do anything else, exciting news (for me anyway); I switched over from Pay As You Go to a Monthly Contract on Sunday. I hadn’t realised quite how much I’d been topping up per month lately, it always felt there was some special reason that I was using my phone more than normal. Trouble is that thing lasted for the last 4 months, so it looks like that’s just how it’s gonna be. This new contract will work out much cheaper; plus I get mobile internet. Try as I might before, I couldn’t get the iPhone to conect to the net with a PAYG sim. Now with my contract I have access to both GPRS and EDGE networks almost anywhere. To start with I’m on an ad hoc data plan that means I never pay more than £1.00 per day for mobile internet (and that’s a lot by the way, I won’t be reaching that very often… at all). We’ll see how it goes, I have the option of switching to a £7.50 per month flat rate for unlimited use if that turns out to be cheaper, which I find unlikely. Right, now I’ve got that off my chest…

We’re back and we’re rockin’. Much as I enjoyed my week off (humff, not much of a break actually, more on that to come) it’s good to be back. I sat down in my first lecture at 9am, Monday morning and my thoughts weren’t:

“oh great, here we go again,”

they were:

“*sigh* I missed this,”

followed a microsecond later with:

“I shouldn’t be thinking that; I am so gay.”

I’m not saying I didn’t want the time off, I’m glad I did. I feel for the people who didn’t finish their exams until 5pm Friday and started their next classes on Monday (Gemma). But there’s nothing quite like getting back in the groove. I enjoy it. You all know I do. I complain bitterly about how the Medics are hated by the university and they give us such a raw deal and we never get the chance to stop and we’re always working, etc. etc.; but deep down I love it. I can’t stand not to be busy. If I have a defined period for ‘rest’, like I did last week, I worry that I’m not using it to it’s full. I worry I’m not doing ‘relaxing things’ in my time off. Term time gives me direction; a goal and a target.

To carry on talking about my week off, it went as follows:
Monday work in Library for 2 hours on community course tutorial stuff.
Tuesday Community Course all morning, results posted in afternoon followed by shopping.
Wednesday Family Visit and lost iPhone for 3 hours, much stress.
Thursday and Friday I had properly off and to myself.

It wasn’t even that the things I had to do filled my days, I was just that if you have morning things you have to get up, you have to be smart. Even one thing in the middle of the day spoils a whole 12 hours of carefully planned relaxation. My idea had been to read pretty solidly for the whole week, I read exactly zero pages of my novel.

The weekend I spent with Gemma being lazy and genuinely relaxing for the first time. I just wish she could have done the same instead of having to worry about all the things she had to do before Monday. Sunday we both went home for a home cooked meal. Mum was pretty stressed, but ok. The roast was lovely even if she did cheat on the Yorkkies.

The week so far has been enjoyable. Endocrinology is pretty good and is setting the tone for what should be a much more interesting term. I like our endocrine lecturer, Mr. Fowler, lot of other people don’t though. (The fact he has a PDA and does lectures from a MacBook has nothing to do with my opinion of him…..)

The community course poster is proving hellish. We’ve got a meeting 1-2 on Thursday, so I’ll have to have all my research done my then. My topic? “Male aspects of Puberty with a view to describing the lifestyle and health changes during the period of adolescence.” Yeah, and I was handing out the topics, why I couldn’t have taken drink and drugs. As a topic I mean, I could take those things if I so desired, but I doubt it would help my grades.

Gemma and I are on a ‘break’ right now, what ever that means. Long story, basically we need space to consider where we are and what exactly our relationship means. I know that sounds like a lot of crap, and so it should, but this isn’t one of those ‘we’re obviously going to break up but we’re trying to pretend that it isn’t going to happen and delay the heart break for as long as possible’ kind of things. At least I hope it isn’t. To be honest, I doubt that to the casual observer there would appear to be much difference…. where have I seen that before? Either way, I can at least envision us recovering, so all can’t be lost yet.

Lunch with Sarah tomorrow, finally a chance to catch up like we’ve been saying we would for weeks. Then afternoon and dinner with dad and Tara. I would really appreciate the time to do more poster research, but considering I haven’t seen him since the 29th of December I think it’s best I cut my loses and do it. Hell, I don’t care, but it’s just one of those things that has to be endured. It also means I can’t go to the Atheist society pizza and discussion night tomorrow, I don’t think I’ll be back in time. Shame, I feel up for a philosophical debate about now (“now” being 1:11am on Wednesday morning. I don’t often get insomnia, and it isn’t even that I can’t sleep, it’s that I don’t want to. I feel like doing something and I know I can probably get away with another sleep-lite™ night.)

There’s more photo posts in the pipeline and I will be getting back to my sunset series, it’s just a case of taking the first photo then I’ll be forced to keep taking them. Quotes posts should be back on normal schedule too, 22:10 every Sunday, put it in your diary.

Oh and just before I go; loving the weather. London on it’s knees, you have to laugh. I know it’s a once-every-twenty-years event, and I do feel for them, but it doesn’t stop me giggling a bit too. Up here it’s been rain rain rain. Coming back on Monday night was a nice level, somewhere between heavy drizzle and rain. I genuinely love that weather. A bit of wind to lift your hair, quiet night, not too cold, dry place waiting for you. It isn’t exactly unbeatable, but it’s in the top 5.

She is

Do not get me wrong I cannot wait for you to come home
For now you’re not here and I’m not there, it’s like we’re on our own
To figure it out, consider how to find a place to stand
Instead of walking away and instead of nowhere to land

This is going to break me clean in two
This is going to bring me close to you

She is everything I need that I never knew I wanted
She is everything I want that I never knew I needed

It’s all up in the air and we stand still to see what comes down
I don’t know where it is, I don’t know when, but I want you around
When it falls in place with you and I, we go from if to when
Your side and mine are both behind it’s indication

This is going to bring me clarity
This’ll take the heart right out of me

She is everything I need that I never knew I wanted
She is everything I want that I never knew I needed

This is going to bring me to my knees
I just want to hold you close to me

She is everything I need that I never knew I wanted
She is everything I want that I never knew I needed

She is everything
(I needed)
She is everything

Have I said too much?

Something weird, about tonight.

Not good, not bad; just different.

The time? the timetable? the attire? something I said?

Maybe it’s just something new, something that will become normal.

I don’t know.

Maybe I’m just tired, but I don’t feel tired.

(probably)

Friday’s symmetry is Saturday’s dischord

So in Friday’s dying seconds, I squeeze out yet another post; my 69th (plus 3 drafts), not that the numbers really matter.

It’s been a day of ups and… well, more ups! Ha, bet you didn’t see that coming, unless you’ve been reading ahead? Tut tut, I hate people who read ahead. Anyways; 9am, Anatomy Lecture Theater at Marischal College, as ever. It snows: run for the bus, miss the bus. Cycle through the snow without incident, bum gets wet again though. Lectures and Anatomy until 3pm, I’m getting there, but I doubt I’m ready for an OSPE on Monday. Lunch is a pannini from Upper Crust, delicious as ever, even if it does mean getting cold. The snow falling around Marischal was beautiful, but the camera on my iPhone just doesn’t do it justice, I took a couple of photos then gave up. Cycled home in the snow without incident, glad for my contact lenses since glasses would have rendered me blind.

Dinner was good, although I can’t remember what I had.

Gemma appeared early, then proceeded to complain that she shouldn’t have got me round since she had work to do; some things never change.

Then, I walked her to the train station to collect an old friend. One of her’s, not mine, so I disappeared into the night like the stalker you all know I really am. Truly, my feelings on the matter change almost minute by minute. Nothing negative, I rather enjoy remaining invisible for a while; I briefly considered some good old fashioned street stalking, but decided the chances of being seen were too high. I shall instead steal glances at them tomorrow, which is in fact now today. I was absorbed in Star Trek when invited to the impromptu snow ball fight that developed behind Johnston, so couldn’t muster the energy to move.

Nothing more have I to say on the format of my day. Rather, now I move to the moments that made it.

  • Running full speed for the bus, and hearing it drive off in to the distance.
  • Watching Dr Stewart trying to conduct a lecture to 180 people from a 15″ computer monitor because the projector has died.
  • Asking Jimmy’s poor Registrar why Mark cannot extend his little finger (problem with extensor digiti minimi, if you were wondering).
  • Cycling home in the snow.
  • Shouting at Mary for smoking occasionally (she can stop any time she wants… apparently).
  • Gemma kissing me unexpectedly, it never fails to make my heart skip a beat when I’m not expecting it (but then, even when I see it coming, it still causes a flutter).
  • And finally, walking to the train station:

Snow of the like I haven’t seen at this time of year for many a season. I can still remember when it was the norm, but for too long such resplendent weather has been absent ’til the closing days of January. Walking through the town, sodium street lamps casting their orange spheres of light. Illuminating a burst of flurrying snow; across the skyline of the city, strangely quiet, united in its cold. Holding a hand tightly against the chill and the slippery pavements; Christmas lights too brighten the night. The beauty of the scene – magnificent, fragile and perfect – dancing a slow symmetry with the moment that contains it; and being, with her.

Thank goodness for strangers from the first floor

Sometimes, when people think the same way, it’s good. Mostly, if fact, it means things happen faster and more efficiently. Unfortunately this is not always the case. Occasionally, it can leave you stuck in almost exactly the same place until, ohh what is it now? About 1 o’clock in the morning.

Hmmf.

Monday, 10th November 2008

A date that should forever be remembered as momentous. To begin at the beginning.

I got up a few minutes later than usual at 07:07. Shower took me to 07:25, again, a little later than usual. I went down to breakfast in extraordinarily high spirits. Don’t ask me why, I don’t really know, I just know I was very happy. Both the Apple Juice and the Orange Juice were funny, and probably not really fit for human (or indeed animal) consumption. I tried a Strawberry yogurt instead of my usual rhubarb, it was nice, but I think I’ll stick to what I know in the future. I also had two pieces of (white) toast with butter and a clementine.

I went back to my room at the usual time. I didn’t so much hear Gemma’s knock on my door, rather I considered that I might of heard it. I was not mistaken. She did not make me late, she caused me to leave after I would have done normally, but that is mealy so I don’t have to sit around in my room, I sit around at Marischal instead. The wind on the way there was abysmal, truly horrible, I was all over the place.

A lecture from Dr. Stewart on embryology, let’s not talk about it. Then 2 hours of practical anatomy, we were starting the Lower Limb today. The demonstrator whose name I cannot remember gave a group of us an hour long crash course of everything we needed to know, I felt a bit stupid for not having anything to write on.

Then a genetics lecture, still nothing new on that front. I met up with Iain from Wilderness Medical Society outside anatomy to pay him for the Lochnagar trip next weekend, good news is I’ll be back in plenty of time for Players. I couldn’t be bothered going to get lunch or anything so I decided I could do without, which is true, I can. Thankfully Sarah, most wonderful person that she is, gave me the last of her hosin duck wrap and a whole bag of M&S chocolate raisins. I am deeply in her debt. At lunch we got in to a simply super *cough* debate on the origin of the species and evolution in general. Here are the ingredients:

  • 1 part atheist and die hard Darwin defender
  • 1 part agnostic and die hard Darwin defender
  • 1 part Christian and evolution believer
  • 1 part Christian and evolution denier
  • 1 part Will Brown

And what you have is an interesting discussion and several slightly confused people at the end of it. (I can tell you straight up that 3 of the 5 parts were a little amazed at what they heard.)
Anyway, off to the final lecture, again genetics, this time taking things a little further (finally).

I cycled back with Clair and was just about to text Mark when he calls me:

“Where are you?”
“Just outside Jonhston. You?”
“At the bus stop.”
“Cool, I’ll see you there in 2.”

Then off the two of us went, arm in arm, to the Hall. We were off to give blood. Both of us were donation virgins (the words of the SNBTS Nurse, not mine). The queue was massive, which I suppose when you think about it is actually a very good thing. After much form filling and waiting I was greeted by a nice man in a very fetching set of blue scrubs, who stuck a needle in the side of my left middle finger. He then proceeded to stick a capillary tube, just the same as you or I would use in paper chromatography, and filled it up by milking the hole he had just made in my finger! Then he sends a drop falling in to a Copper Sulphate solution. (I was told this was what it was, but I’d have been able to tell anyway, when you’ve worked with Cu2+ solutions as much as I have, you just get to know.) If the drop reaches the bottom in less than 15 seconds you’re good to go. I clearly have a very healthy Hb since mine went shooting down in about 4. Then I was sent to yet another waiting area for a bed to become available. I due course a left side bed was free, so I was stuck on that one. The NA there was very nice, and she talked me through the whole thing. They have to call a real Nurse over to actually do the needle inserting. She was also very nice, although she went in to my vein at a bit of a funny angle, hence why it is still stiff. She put the needle in. It hurt. Of course it did, she if forcing a 3cm spike of metal under my skin. Now, from the moment you arrive people, staff I mean, will tell you it isn’t going to hurt. The guy who did my Hb test said afterwards that it was probably the most painful part of my day over with. I would have liked to believe him. I would have liked him to be right. The thing is, the SNBTS have invested a lot of time and effort in to spreading the word that “Giving Blood Doesn’t Hurt”. It is incredible, when you think about it, that most of us believe them, I mean, how could it not hurt. But it’s the public perception that’s important, as any government minister will tell you. So when the new girl arrives at the bed next to me, and the NA is in the course of explaining everything she explained to me asks, “It doesn’t hurt, does it?” She looks at me in that way. That expectant way. I pause for a fraction of a second. “No, doesn’t hurt at all, I could hardly feel it.” She smiles at me in her special nursey way, knowing I’m just far to nice a person to put fear in this new girl’s heart. The way I see it, it’s like Father Christmas. Everyone over a certain age knows the truth, just like everyone who has given blood knows the truth. But nobody talks about it, because it wouldn’t be right. Everybody just plays along, “No, no, didn’t hurt a bit, no problem at all.” because that’s what’s expected of you. It’s a moral duty you have not to put anyone off blood donation. A social experiment in progress perhaps.

After I had given my 485mL, which took 8 minutes, I was released to the tea area so I could replenish some fluids and have a biscuit. They wanted me to stay there for 10 minutes, but Mark had finished his donation before me, so by the time his 10 were up, I still had 5 left to go. No being one to listen to medical advice in these sort of situations, I snuck out while nobody was looking. Obviously I was fine, apart from the fact I didn’t really have use of my left arm.

So that’s my first blood donation experience. It makes you feel good and at the same time really, really rubbish. I just felt so tired. After dinner I had planned on getting some work done, but there was absolutely no chance of that happening since I barely had the energy to engage in conversation (indeed I often found myself not really listening to what people were saying, I was instead drifting off into another world). Instead I went up to Gemma’s room and we watched a film together. ‘The Notebook’, a romance, obviously her choice, I didn’t have the energy to fight for something else. In the end, it wasn’t that bad, clearly I can’t say I liked it, that would violate every male code of film watching, but it could have been a lot worse. Things progressed.

And that’s my day. I realise I may not have told it very well, but from my point of view it was one of the best days since I’ve been here, certainly one of the more different. So I’d just like to say thank you to everyone who made it happen. And a special thanks to Mark, Sarah and Gemma. Without those three, it had the potential to be a really rubbish day indeed.

Cheers guys.